Woman Refuses To Provide Inheritance Money To Sister Who Needs Post-Cancer Surgery

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Dec 20, 2021 3:00 PM EST

You can find a whole lotta love within families, but you could also find a whole lotta drama in 'em too. Some families are super wholesome, some are batsh*t crazy, and some fall somewhere in the middle. On Reddit's infamous 'Am I The A**hole' thread, we're analyzing quite the complicated family this week. The story begins with two sisters - one a mother, the other one childless - plus she's never having on planning kids and frankly isn't a fan of children at all, including her sister's kids. To make a long story short, the sister's parents only allowed access to the inheritance money to their kids that had children, so when they passed on, the childless sister received none of the inheritance money. She asked her sister to lend her some money for surgery after her battle with cancer, alas she's not exactly in a giving mood considering her sister's nasty attitude towards her children. 

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    Font - r/AmItheAsshole · Posted by u/pink-pa 14 hours ago AITA for telling "child-free" sister to use the money she saved by not having kids to fund her operation? This requires a bit of background. I (32f) have 4 children and a series of life events found that they each have a different biological father, although they all call my Husband Dad. Two of my children I had at a very young age and it caused a lot of chaos in the family at first. Well when my sister was 14, she decided she was going t
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    You could already sense the tension between the two sisters before getting into specifics. Two sisters, two completely different lifepaths, two different points of view, but only one can be the designated a**hole on this thread. 

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    Font - I'll give an example of some of the stuff she has said/done. She refuses to go on family outings or vacations unless they are child free, therefore one of us is always excluded from going, and it's usually her because the rest of my family loves my kids. She repeatedly makes fun of the fact that my kids are half siblings and not full siblings and told my oldest that he's old enough to know husband is not his dad. (For the record, oldest knows who his bio dad is but chooses to call husband
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    From the get-go, the sister sounds like the a**hole without a doubt. But then I read about how her parents left her no money because they didn't agree with her childless lifestyle, and I was like *HOLD TF UP.* That makes me hella suspicious of the family as a whole. Things are about to blow up over here. 

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    Font - Well Sister came over and asked if she could use the money on an elective surgery, to make her body more authentically pleasing after she had a cancer remove. I just told her to use the money she saved by being child-free. Brother who only has 1 child, received much less and doesn't want to share with her either. I could pay for it without dipping into the kids fund at all, but I just don't want to. AITA for throwing my sisters "childfree" attitude back in her face and refusing to help he
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    Okay, so you know this week's AITA story. Scroll down to hear different opinions on Reddit, and formulate your own opinion. 

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    Font - aroukouth Asshole Enthusiast [7] 14 hours ago ESH There is no way you were obliged to give her the money. The way she has been behaving towards you was awful and she had no right expecting you to pay for her surgery. Having said that, the way you rejected here was just spite in a situation where your sister was vulnerable. You could have handled that better IMHO.
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    Font - ConsiderationHour824 11 hours ago It sounds to me like we're only getting one side of the story. Would someone really act like this entirely unprovoked? I think something similar to tillywhacks must have happened here. Also, OP seems to assume that whatever's left after the college fund is theirs to spend but I think they intended all the money to go to the grandkids (hence the 80/20 split - 20% for each grandchild), not as a reward for OP and her brother for having children. Whatever's l
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    Font - Dull-Community Partassipant [2] 11 hours ago THIS. Ffs her sister has CANCER and there is no compassion whatsoever here. We are only getting one side of the story and OP dances around it to make her sister sound vain, but her sister is clearly trying to afford reconstructive surgery after cancer treatment. It's also clear that the sister is bitter for being alienated while the family favored OP and her children, while OP is bitter that the sister disparaged her life choices. The whole rel
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    Human body - Poisonskittlez 10 hours ago I love how she phrased it as "an elective surgery to make her look more physically attractive" before she mentioned that it was due to having cancer. She made it seem like she just wanted a nose job or something when in reality, this would be classified as a reconstructive surgery.
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    Human body - WithoutDennisNedry 6 hours ago Let's not forget the AH parents who left the sister out of inheritance bc she doesn't have kids. I mean, maybe there's more to it than that but based on OP's story, that's a seriously dick move too.
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    Human body - throwaday2020 10 hours ago Ok but this woman literally tried to destroy her own nephew's idea of family and plant some deep seeds of insecurity and doubt in a young child, for absolutely no reason at all. She deserved this moment.
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    Font - INTJedi Partassipant [2] 10 hours ago I have to wonder how much of the childcare for those first 2 kids was foisted onto the "child free" sister and called "helping."
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    Font - dragonfly332 11 hours ago Op absolutely could have. Also, it is entirely possible given the cancer and subsequent treatments that some of the sisters bitterness could come from not actually having a choice about being child free. I'm gonna also add the parents are also assholes in this situation for deliberately leaving out one of their kids.
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    Font - sivshen 5 hours ago OP got all defensive when a commenter asked if she tripped and fell on four different baby daddy dicks. Although it has a sarcastic undertone to that question, point is OP did make a series of bad decisions and most of all never learnt from it, don't have any empathy for a cancer survivor. If that's not a shitty behavior to qualify for an YTA, I don't know what is. Op is YTA
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    Font - SB-121 13 hours ago 2 2 S None of this makes any sense. First we have an impossibly large number of children, then we have parents apparently being supportive of one daughter having multiple children by multiple partners while being unsupportive of the other daughter following a normal life path by remaining childfree in her 20s, writing their disapproval into their will, and then conveniently dying at an unusually young age, simultaneously. And that's before we get to the cancer stuff. Y
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    Eye - pageanator2000 11 hours ago The cancer is so out of left field and just brushed off.
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    Human body - no_rxn Partassipant [3] 11 hours ago · edited 11 hours ago Don't forget OP is stealing part of the kids inheritance that's explicitly meant for only college use!
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    Rectangle - im_copypasta 9 hours ago Guys why aren't we talking about the fact that the entire money as per parent's will is earmarked for the kids and not for OP. but OP has made a decision, that it's too much for kids education and hence spend it on themselves. That in my books is straight up stealing as NOWHERE has the will stated the remainder can be used for the family. YTA for sure.
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    Font - im_copypasta 7 hours ago What about the trauma OP put sister and others through by getting knocked up recklessly not once twice but four Times and that too very early, that in turn made sister decide no kids whatsoever OP still passes with flying colors about being the bigger a hole shitting on cancer survivor, never learning from mistakes and most of all having no empathy
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    Font - cluelessnreddit 14 hours ago ESH your sister for her comments and attitude, your parents for excluding somebody for not wanting kids, you for utilizing this position to just get back at her. If I got this she had cancer and is recovered but needs extra money for surgery. I'm hoping this "elective surgery" is not breast reconstruction because there's many studies of the mental health effect cancer has and how this surgery is pivotal to help the patients recover. She could have had this mon
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